As a lifelong soccer player, coach, and fan, my attention was caught by a news story about a referee for a youth recreational league in Salt Lake City who died after being punched by a player. This is only months after a linesman in the Netherlands was beaten by two teenage players as his son looked on. Fortunately, the reason that something like this would make the news is because it is rare and shocking. However, it does point to a consistent truth – each of us is capable of responding to our circumstances in a way that does harm.